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第24章接受自己AgOneself
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It&apephenomenonhowdifficultpeoplefindittolovethemselves.Ohinkitistheeasiestthingintheworld，becauseos;retlyedwithourselves.os;realwaysiedinhowmuget，hoe，howfortablewebe.Sowithallthat，whyisitsodifficulttoactuallyloveoneself?
Loviainlydoesn'tmeanindulgingoneself.Reallylovingisaowardsomostpeopledon'thave，becausetheykhingsaboutthemselveswhiotdesirable.Everybodyhasiudes，reas，likesahey'dbebetteroffwithout.Judgmentismadeandwhileonelikesone'spositiveattitudes，ohers.Withthatessuppressiosofoopleasedwith.Onedoesn'twanttoknowaboutthemanddoesn'taowledgetheThat'sonewayofdealingwithoneself，whichisdetrimentaltogrowth.
Anotherunskillfulwayistodislikethatpartofoneselfearsiveaimeitarisesoneblamesoneself，whichmakesmatterstwiceasbadastheywerebefore.Withthatesfearaenaggressioodealwithoneselfinabala'sopretendthattheupartdoesn'texist，thoseaggressive，irritable，sensual，dencies.Ifwepretendwearefarfromrealityandputasplitintoourselves.Eventhoughsuchapersoallysaheappearaofereal.os;vealleacrosspeoplelikethat，whoaretoosweettobetrue，asaresultofpretenseandsuppression.Blamingoneselfdoesn'tworkeither.Inbothiransfersone'sowootherpeople.Ohersfortheirdeficies，realined，oronedoesn'tseethemasordinaryhumanbeings.Everyonelivesinanunrealworld，becauseit'sego-deluded，butthisoireal，becauseeverythingissideredeitherasperfederfulorabsolutelyterrible.
&hingthatisrealisthatwehavesixrootswithisofgoodasofevil.Thelatteraregreed，hateanddelusion，butwealsohavetheiropposites，gey，loving-kindnessandwisdoTakeahismatter.Ifoesthisanddoesn'tgetanxiousaboutit，thenoneeasilyacceptthesesixrootsineverybody.Nodifficultyatall，whenohemiheyaretheunderlyingrootsofeveryone'sbehavior.Thenwelookatourselvesalittlemorerealistiamelynotblamingourselvesfortheus，notpattihebackforthewholesomeoheragtheirexistehinus.Wealsoahtedlyandhaveamucheasiertimerelatingtothe
&sufferfromdisappoisandos;tblame，becauseos;tliveinaworldwhereonlyblackorwhiteexists，eitherthethreerootsofuheiropposites.Suchaworlddoesn'texistaheoobelikethatisanArahant.It&apelyamatterofdegreeihesedegreesofgoodandevilaresofihere'ssolittledifferehedegreesihatitreallydoesn'tmatter.Everybodyhasthesamejobtodo，tocultivatethewholesometendenduproottheunwholesomeones.
Apparentlyos;reallveryfacultiestodealwiththeTheonlydifferehdifferent.Thattooisanillusion.os;reallhavingthesameproblemsandalsothesamesolutionsthatonehashad.Trainingwhichmayhavebeengoingonforanumberoflifetimeshasbroughtaboutalittlemoreclarity，that'sall.
Clarityofthinkingpurifip;apos;semotions，whichisadifficultjobthatobedolybedonesuccessfullywhenitisn'taioclearcut，straightforwardworkthatonedoesonoissideredtobejustthat，ittakesthestingoutofit.Thechargeof"I'msowo;or"I'msoterrible"isdefused.Weareherwonderfulnorterrible.Everyoneisahumahallthepotentialaions.Ifonelovethathumaheois"me"withallitsfadtehenoneloveothersrealistically，usefullyandhelpfully.Butifonemakesabreakinthemiddleahepartwhiiddislikesthepartwhi'tniough，one&aptoetogrips>
&ourselvesinthatmanner，wewilllearntoloveourselvesinawholesomeway."Justasamotherattheriskoflife，lovesasherchild..."Beother!Ifwewaionshipwithourselvesthatisrealistiducivetogrowth，theobeother.Aseherguishbetweenthatwhichisusefulforherdthatwhichisdetrimental.Butshedoesn'tstoplovingtheitmisbehaves.Thismaybethemostimportaolookatinourselves.Everyoimeoranother，misbehavesinthoughtorspeechoraostfrequentlyinthought，fairlyfrequentlyinspeeotsooftenina.Soiththat?Whatdoesamotherdo?Shetellstheottodoitagaihechildasmuchasshe'salwaysloveditahthejupherchild.Maybewestarttupourselves.
Thewholeisamatter.Maturityiswisdom，whifortuectedtoage.Ifitwere，itwouldbeveryeasy.Onewouldhaveaguaraishardwork，ajobtobedoesre，thenlearningnotton，buttouand."Thisisthewayitis."Thethirdstepisge.Reaybethehardestpartformostpeople;it'soseewhatgoesoninsideofohisisthemostimportaerestiofplation.
&emplativelife，butthatdoesiionalldayloivelifemeansthatonesiderseveryaspectofensaspartexperierospederallesoutgoiheworldos;sthoughts，speedaeorecolleeselfahin.Inouros;saeditatioheplativelifegoesoninsideofoneself.Ohesamethingwithorwithoutreplatioimportarospe.Itisn'tositstillalldayandwatp;apos;sbreath.Everymht，everywiverisetoneself.
Thiskindofworkononeselfwillbringaboutdeepiy，whichisrootediy.Mostpeandhopingforthiskiy，butareov.Livinginamyth，tlyhafraidisopposedtohavirength.Thefeeliyariseswheyinsideofoherebytherealityineveryoneelseaermswithit.
&emplativelifeisoftenlivedheavy-handedly.Alapensatedfoutgoing.Thisdoesn'twork.Oneshouldcultivatelight-heartedaywithihere'snothingtobeworriedorfearfulabout，nothingthatistoodifficult.Sowe-heartedapproachtoourowndiffidthoseofeveryoexuberap.Ratheratinwardness，whisabitofamusement.Thisworksbest.Ifonehasasenseofhumoraboutoismucheasiertoloveoneselfproperly.It'salsomucheasiertoloveeverybodyelse.
&imesthiraysomethiisnotpossible.Peoplegerytoshowthemselvesoffassomethiheyreallyare.Then，ofcourse，theybeedisappoihemselveswhentheyfail，andequallydisappoihers.Torealistiowoneselfmakesitpossibletotrulylove.Thatkindoffeelihelight-heartedhisjobined，whieeded.Byagourselvesandothersaswetrulyare，ourjobofpurifi，gawayatthedefilements，ismademucheasier.
爱自己是件很困难的事，这真是一种很奇怪的现象！
或许有人以为这是世界上最容易的事，因为我们始终都在关心自己。
我们总对能获得多少，表现多好，如何舒适地生活怀有极大的兴趣。
那为何真正地爱自己就那么难呢？
当然，爱自己并不意味着放纵自己。
很多人都没有真正地爱过自己，他们知道，很多东西并不是自己渴望就能得到。
每个人都有很多想法，有不同反应和好恶。
他们会认为：没有这些，他们会更快乐。
当一个人肯定自己某些方面而厌恶其他方面时，他就作出了判断。
于是，我们对自身不满的方面被压制下去，不想去了解，也不想承认它的存在。
这是非常有碍自己成长的方式。
讨厌自己看似消极的一面也是一种愚蠢的做法。
每次这种消极面出现的时候都要自责，从而使事情变得更为糟糕，恐惧和挑衅也随之而来。
若你想以一种平和的方式对待自己，装作消极方面——争强好胜、脾气暴躁、自负享乐等倾向都不存在，那是没有裨益的。
若我们如此伪装自己，那就与现实相去甚远，也就人为地把自己割裂了。
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